Parents! Never say these things to your child!!!

1. Do not talk to strangers- This is a tough concept for a child to understand. kids may take this rule wrong way and resist the help of police when in need. They may not think of a person as a stranger if he is nice to him. Instead of warning explain them with the help of a situation like if there is a stranger who will offering candy or ride, then in this situation what they will do and guide them to proper course of action. If anyone makes you feel sad, scared or confused you need to tell me right now.

2. We cannot afford that- Doing so sends a message that you are not in control of your finances, which can be scary for the child. Instead we can say that we are saving money for more important things and if the conversation goes on then it is the perfect time to start a conversation on managing money and budget.

3. No desert unless you finish your dinner- It will diminishes his/her enjoyment of meal, the opposite will happen of what you want to accomplish. The change of wording have more positive impact on child like 'First we eat our meal and then we have desert'.

4. Let me help- If you all the time help your child will always be looking to answers from others. It will undermine your child's independence. Instead ask guiding questions to help them solve the problem.

5. Great job- This phrase makes your child masters a skill on your affirmation rather than on their own motivation.

6. Be careful- Suppose your child is playing in the ground, These words can distract a child and he/she will fall or get hurt. Rather go and stand near them if you are feeling anxious, as still and quiet you can.

7. You're OK- When your child falls and scrapes his knee and he is crying do not say that he is okay because he is hurt and that is why he is crying. You can use phrase like "that was a scary fall"

8. Practice makes perfect- Encourage your child to work more so that he/she will improve and feel proud of his progress. This can ramp up the pressure and he/she will feels to win or excel and also think negative.

9. Hurry up- Your child eats breakfast slowly and on the other hand getting last for school. Do not ask him to hurry up rather say 'let's hurry' which makes him feel that two of you are in same team, otherwise h/she will feel that they have to face all the struggles alone.

10. I am on diet- These kind of phrase may develop an unhealthy body image. rather use 'I am eating healthy' or ' it's beautiful outside I am going on a walk' and may inspire them to join you for a walk.